Being human is hard. We are complex creatures living in a very complex world. We have to deal with our feelings every day, being caught up in the swirl of emotions. The most destructive thing you can do is judge yourself too hard. Self-deprecation can lead to low self-esteem, stress, and even depression. So, in order to live a healthy life, you need to start taking little steps.
Of course, it’s not like you’re going to wake up tomorrow and change your life in a snap. Becoming a better person isn’t easy and takes time. So, why don’t you start with something small? Just one step at a time and you will be able to see all those positive changes in your life and in your mind.
Don’t Be Afraid to Make Mistakes
Have you heard the saying, “To err is human”? It’s in our nature to make mistakes and to be afraid of them. We all try, fail, and start all over again. Accept the fact that you will make mistakes because you’re not a flawless machine, you are human.
The first step to self-improvement is to realize that our failures and mistakes are the most valuable lessons in our lives. We learn not from theories but from practice and real situations. Each mistake is an experience leading us to a better understanding of ourselves.
So, today, start by accepting the possibility of making a mistake. Start by realizing that there’s nothing more natural for a human than to face failure.
Don’t Ask Too Much of Yourself
There’s one simple truth you have to remember: you can’t please everyone. Trying to be good to others is amazing and shows what a great person you are. But sacrificing your personal comfort, health, and time to make someone else satisfied is a very self-destructive path.
It’s important to remember that the more you’re longing for someone’s approval, the more you depend on those people around you. And that’s how you let someone else control your life. To change that, try to ask yourself these questions as often as you can:
- What am I doing right now and why am I doing it?
- Who am I doing it for?
- Do I need this? Was it me who decided to do this? Or was it someone else who made me do this?
- What do I really want to do right now?
By asking yourself these questions, you will learn how to choose what is more important to you.
Accept Your Flaws
No one is perfect. This phrase is a cliché, but it’s so true. Your flaws, just like your virtues, are what distinguishes you from other people. You are what you are. Not a God, not a perfection – just a human being.
So, the next step to improving your life is accepting yourself completely, with all the qualities you like or dislike. When you accept yourself, it’s much easier to grow and develop. After all, the road to better well-being is based on love. When you reject some parts of yourself, you don’t allow yourself to feel love, and the whole process of self-development slows down.
Take Care of Yourself
It’s okay to put yourself first. It doesn’t mean that you’re an egoist. It simply means that you value your well-being. Making yourself a number one priority in your life will not only release you from pressure but also boost your self-growth.
Small steps lead to great achievements, so start taking care of yourself with these simple things:
- Try to find your passion. Is it painting? Cooking? Foreign languages? Start with something little that brings you joy, like playing language games or trying a new recipe every week.
- Go to bed. Don’t promise yourself to wake up at 5 am every day, but for once in a while, go to bed an hour earlier or take a nap in the middle of the day.
- Throw something away. Just walk around your apartment, find things that you no longer need, and get rid of them. This is the first step to start feeling free.
- Praise yourself. Even for the little things.
- Make a cup of tea. Take your favorite mug and enjoy the taste. Just sit there for a couple of minutes and relax, like there’s nothing more important in the world than you and your tea.
- Stop apologizing. Stop feeling guilty because of your mistakes or because you aren’t able to do something and stop apologizing for being yourself.
So, start your journey of self-development today, and don’t forget – you’re only human. Go easy on yourself.
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