10 Struggles Only INTJs Will Understand
The Struggles Only INTJs Will Understand
1. Communication Breakdowns: The Constant Burden of Introverted Analysis
Any of the I-based types will attest that Introversion is a mixed burden and blessing, but someone who pairs Introversion with Thinking finds themselves constantly exploring and rationalizing concepts that others don’t always understand. Introversion, for an INTJ, isn’t just an insular state of mind. It’s more than that. It’s an internalized thought process that may never be completely understood by those around you. Communicating with different types will often remain a challenge, as expressing detailed, internalized concepts requires explanations others may be unable or unwilling to grasp. Indeed, attempting to provide those very explanations can be quite frustrating for an INTJ.
2. Emotional Detachment: The Appearance of an Emotional Void
It isn’t that you don’t experience emotion, but rather that you recognize that emotionally based judgments are inherently flawed. You may follow your instincts, certainly – but you’ll also seek analytical validation before committing yourself to a defined judgment. While others suspect that you don’t feel emotion, instead you simply recognize the need to distance yourself from emotions when necessity dictates. This can cause a continuing sense of distance and isolation for INTJs – a gap between the INTJ and other types that remain a difficult gulf to cross.
3. Social Challenges: Attempting to Claim a Social Niche
The bane of all Introverted types is often facing social interaction, but the INTJ faces unique challenges with each interaction. Social conventions may simply seem burdensome or, at times, completely foreign to the INTJ. Because INTJ views are often based on comprehensive, deeply internalized analysis – casual discussions can quickly feel like piercing inquisitions. This can raise challenges when an INTJ is attempting to find a social niche that fits their personality and interests, as even those of very similar mindsets can (at times) make an INTJ feel alienated by means of their questioning or lack of understanding.
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4. Building Relationships: Connecting to People Versus Being Connected to People
Despite their Introverted nature, INTJs will (like other Introverted types) still attempt to develop bonds of friendship and romance. However, these relationships will frequently be valued based on how nearly a friend or partner’s values, views, and ideologies pair with the INTJs. This can raise challenges in finding close friends or partners, as isolation may be preferential to a less suited match.
5. In Search of a Purpose: Requiring a Cause
While an INFJ might overly dedicate themselves to a cause based on feelings such as an emotional or moral judgment, an INTJ will often devote themselves to a cause that feels more rationalized. This can come in many forms, but fields that allow for creativity and analysis are often favored: academia, law, engineering, etc.
6. Rejecting the Norm: The Need for Creativity In Solutions
While preeminent value is placed on the deciding factor of whether a methodology or thought process will act to solve a problem – an inherent appreciation for creativity remains. Systems or modalities of thinking that attempt to ‘box in’ those seeking solutions is often viewed with hostility. This hostility can make it difficult for INTJs to excel professionally as such rejections of professional conventions are rarely welcomed.
7. Abundant Leadership, Yet Rarely Used
INTJs are often thought of as silent leaders or leaders in waiting as they frequently carry traits valued in leadership roles. However, INTJ’s (true Introverts) rarely step forward to assume such roles of their own accord. Instead of being motivated by hubris or greed, an INTJ may be most motivated by frustration at a lack of progress and a perceived vacuum of power. The desire to ‘right the course’ will often carry greater appeal than simply taking the reins of power from the onset.
8. The Appearance of Arrogance: When Over-Thinking Betrays You
INTJs views are often based on detailed thought processes and layered analysis. When someone fails to understand a described concept or idea, INTJ’s may be overly eager to attribute the failure to understand to the other party rather than themselves. However, the reality may be that the complexity of the thought process doesn’t lend itself to simple or direct rhetoric.
9. Losing the Forest for the Trees: Focusing on the Details
While over analysis has the benefit of providing a detailed, sweeping review of various possibilities – it has the significant downside of lending itself to focusing more on the details than the bigger picture. While the details are certainly important, losing oneself in aspects and minutia of a project remains a constant threat for the INTJ.
10. Adjusting Thought Processes versus Adjusting Loyalties
Being able to envision many different possibilities and think outside the box in dreaming up solutions may seem like desirable traits, but at times this style of thinking can put one at odds with one’s peers. An INTJ is able to process a great deal of information, assess varying strategies and methodologies, and plan out a course moving forward. While the path they favor may seem like the rational and obvious approach to them, others may view such a willingness to adapt to emerging realities as a lack of moral fortitude and commitment. INTJs, on the other hand, would view it as a lack of stagnant values.